My husband Jaime and I traveled back to Oregon just in time to celebrate Father’s Day and my birthday among our friends and family on the West Coast. It’s been so nice spending some time around so many of our loved ones. It really got me thinking about how many people I have in my life that I can count on and how much that means to me. I know my loved ones are there to support me, encourage me, and have candid conversations with me about what’s important in my life.
Who do you have in your corner? Who are you excited to share news or accomplishments with? Who grounds you? Who lifts you? Who helps you through those challenging times? Who lends their expertise? Who encourages you to achieve your dreams?
It could be a friend, a neighbor, a coworker, a personal trainer, or financial advisor. Who do you look to for support in your life? Take a moment to look around your life and identify those that are there to support you in any capacity, physically, mentally, financially, etc.
Next, recognize who in your life you support, maybe your kids, spouse, or friend. Ask yourself who you could be that person for, is there someone in your life that could use your support?
If you can’t identify meaningful relationships in your life, is that an area you’d like to purposefully develop?
I’d recommend looking over Dr. Henry Cloud’s The Power of the Other. It’s an excellent read that will help you better understand how your relationships–whether friendly, romantic, professional–affect your life. He demonstrates that outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Dr. Cloud shows how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don’t always have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.
I’ll be talking more in depth about this book on our first group conversation. To get the most out of this call, I invite you to grab a copy and dive in head first. Don’t forget to comment below with any realizations, personal insights, or just a friendly hello! 🙂
4 Comments on “Who’s In Your Corner?”
Hi Lisa (from a fellow health coach)! This is a book I haven’t heard about before, but it sounds interesting and very useful – thank you for the recommendation. I had to end what turned out to be an increasingly toxic relationship a couple years ago – after a friendship of 20+ years. Hard to do, but necessary for my own sake (and I really wasn’t helping her any by trying to continue the friendship). I’m not inclined to give up easily, but realized I had to take care of me. Moving forward, I would like to be mindful about establishing and maintaining healthy relationships that are mutually positive. I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts!
Thank you for your comment Joice. It’s so good you are evaluating unhealthy relationships in your life and seeking healthy ones.
We will be doing a Zoom “Conversation” about the topic on July 11th. Stay tuned for info within the next couple of days. 🙂
On Chapter 6 of The Power of the Other. I love it. I see 4 areas where it will impact my life.
1. Recognize and evaluate my current relationships – Corner 1, 2, 3, or 4
2. Realization that I have an Internal “Round About” going and finding ways to exit it.
3. Identify Corner 4 relationships and work on improving them and making new ones.
4. Become a Corner 4 person in others lives.
Very excited to explore more.
Wonderful Diane! You are obviously digging into the book, “The Power of the Other”. Thanks for sharing what you wan to work on from Chapter 6.